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Dr. Agnes Bueno answers your questions on sex and reveals her favorite fictional psychiatrist. (Enjoy the information with some fava beans and a good chianti.)
50 Shades is not erotic, sex addiction doesn’t exist, monogamy is unnatural. Listen to our podcast with Dr. Agnes Bueno.
Kristen Schaal of The Daily Show on sexy Halloween costumes.
Listen to Part One of our interview with pediatric psychiatrist and human sexuality expert Dr. Agnes Bueno here.
Everybody thinks about sex; the question is, how often? Is it possible to think about sex too much? (What is “too much”?) Is it possible to not think about sex at all?
Around the time we declared independence from our parents and moved into a place of our own, we turned on the TV late one night and discovered the woman who has the answers. With her high intelligence and erudition, her direct manner, her colored contact lenses and decolletage, and her absolute refusal to treat sexuality as a subject “not suitable for polite company”, she helped to liberate us from our silly, giggly notions about love and relationships.
On Tuesday we’re doing a podcast with the famed psychiatrist and human sexuality expert, Dr. Agnes Bueno. We’re tackling everything you’ve always wanted to know about sex but didn’t know whom to ask (or were afraid to ask for fear of being judged and condemned as a maniac). So post your questions for Dr. Bueno in Comments, and we’ll try to cram them all into the podcast next week. Don’t be embarrassed; she won’t be.
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The 50 Shades of Grey books being devoid of literary value, does their use as masturbation helpers for the creatively-challenged justify their existence?
Could you recommend some good erotica?
Which fictional couples (from novels, movies and TV) would you say have healthy relationships?
Why do some people insist on staying in abusive relationships? Do they feel they deserve the abuse? Get their kicks from being abused?
Is Freud still relevant to the times?
Is monogamy natural and possible, or are people kidding ourselves?
Somewhere, someone is already writing a pitch for an indie movie.
The Strange Sexual Quirk of Filipino Seafarers
by Ryan Jacobs
When Norwegian anthropologist Gunnar Lamvik first began living in Iloilo city, a seafaring haven in the southern Philippines, he sensed he wasn’t getting the richest and most detailed information about the shipping experience from interviews with his neighbors, who were home on two-month vacations from 10 months at sea. To crack the cultural mystery of any total institution, you have to go inside, he reasoned. “If you [want] a feeling of a seafarer’s life, you have to be at sea with them when they are open,” said Lamvik, who now studies how cultural differences affect occupational safety at a Norway-based think-tank called SINTEF. “It’s important to be on board for some time, and build trust. That’s the crucial thing to do.”
For the next three years, he was on and off ships, floating with his subjects from port to port and trying to make that connection.
At a raucous karaoke crew member party somewhere in the middle of the Indian Ocean, it began to happen. He belted out the lyrics to “House of the Rising Sun.” Then, he insisted on singing it again. “That was a real ice breaker,” he said.
It was in this type of loose, booze-flowing setting that he learned the most about the lives of his shipmates. And soon, conversations turned to perhaps the most fascinating part of the Filipino seafaring identity, the little-known and barely studied sexual practice of “bolitas,” or little balls.
Many Filipino sailors make small incisions in their penises and slide tiny plastic or stone balls — the size of M&M’s — underneath the skin in order to enhance sexual pleasure for prostitutes and other women they encounter in port cities, especially in Rio de Janeiro. “This ‘secret weapon of the Filipinos,’ as a second mate phrased it, has therefore obviously something to do,” Lamvik wrote in his thesis, “‘with the fact that ‘the Filipinos are so small, and the Brazilian women are so big’ as another second mate put it.”
Thanks to Chus for the link.
At dinner last Saturday our friends kept referring to MHL. Yes, the GMA telenovela My Husband’s Lover is now referred to by its acronym, saving speakers two syllables. When there is a lull in the conversation, our friends have taken to singing, “Should we stay or should we raid the fridge for snacks?” or whatever those lyrics, which we can tell you were not written by The Clash. Every time that song is played, does the network have to pay Kuh Ledesma (or the songwriters) royalties? If so, she could buy an island in the Pacific by now, that song is ringing in our ears.
Our sister’s mother-in-law watches the show every night; so do the mothers of all our friends overseas, who find that if they try to skype Mommy while MHL is on, they will be ignored. (So the next time your mom complains that you never call, tell her you were trying to reach her but she was watching Vincent and Eric.) When proper church-going ladies get addicted to a show about the travails of gay lovers (“Disente naman sila” is a typical comment) you know it’s a hit. When your friends discuss fictional characters as if they had just come to dinner, you know it’s huge.
Faithful fans post entire episodes on YouTube; others write English subtitles for the benefit of viewers who don’t speak Tagalog. Foreign audiences have caught on, and American bloggers have noticed that their Pinoy friends keep discussing an Eric and a Vincent they’ve never met. MHL has been trending on Twitter since it began airing, and it merited a rebuke from the Catholic Bishops Conference, bringing it to the attention of a wider public. TomDen/DenTom is probably the number one loveteam in the country at the moment.
We reviewed an episode of MHL early on, but that was before the show had become a certified phenomenon. It’s time to watch MHL again.
Coming up: Our thorough recap/review of the episode above, which was the first to pop up when we googled My Husband’s Lover. Join us in Comments!